Divorce and Life: Exercises in Letting Go!

Last night I learned that my ex-mother-in-law is in a coma in the hospital. I have known this woman for over 30 years. Years ago when we went to Disneyland I was the one who pushed her wheelchair all day in the heat (it was 102 degrees that day).

She suffered a stroke. I feel this probably happened because her children were making plans to put her into an assisted living facility and the stress was too much for her. Change is difficult, especially as we get older. She raised a lot of children and no one would take her in.  With no pets to comfort her, she rarely received visits and she lived alone.

I had been a part of this family for so long that I can remember when she was getting ready to put her own mother into a retirement home.  Her mother didn't want to go either, but it was getting dangerous for her to live unassisted. She also had so many children and not one of them would take her in. I recollect that my almost ex-mother-in-law didn't even call her mom; she addressed her by her first name. I remember thinking how sad that she didn't feel close enough to her to call her mom.

Maybe I was never really part of the family (even after all of those years), when my hopefully soon-to-be-ex left no one called to see if I was ok, or even to see if the kids were alright (at least they are blood relatives). Now I think they may just not be a warm caring family, or maybe my soon to be ex-mother-in-law didn't model caring behavior (or her mother for that matter). I believe most of us have dysfunctional families in one-way or another.

I really hope she comes out of the coma. I don't think I would be welcome at the funeral. We didn't attend her husband's funeral years ago because my hopefully-soon-to-be-ex didn't want to pay for the airfare (too expensive for just a few days) and I think he probably told his family it was my fault for not attending.

So much to let go of and so much to look forward to embrace!

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