In Divorce Land, When It Rains It Pours.

My support hearing came and went. The papers were finally filed and of course they had to contain an error. Then the papers finally got corrected.  So where is my corrected check? 

I heard from my daughter that her dad was mad because he has to pay me more money (so the nice attorney and the high road wasn't a bad choice) than the temporary support order so I know he knows, so why isn’t he paying? And why is he discussing this with her. We are not supposed to say any thing negative about the other parent. I don’t share any of legal proceedings with them; I just tell them everything will be fine.

Then (of course) in the middle of all of this my mom falls so I take her to the hospital. They check her in (after many hours in the ER) and order a load of tests. It turns out they think she has cancer, so they contact an oncologist. I am expecting the phone call, what I did not expect was to hear that my mom was being treated for colon cancer seven years ago. She never told anyone, and she stopped going for treatment. My husband never liked my mom and I was never allowed to help her, how could I with no real money of my own.

I feel like Alice falling down the rabbit hole, wondering when I will land on my feet again.

My Cheap Fashion Fix

A Dress from Banana Republic listed on EBay $14.99 

Purchased at Thrift Trader for $2.00

I didn't like the ruffle so I cut it off.

It's a Nice Day for a White Un-wedding!

Well, I have been separated for over a year and I just survived my first court date: my support hearing, the first step in all of the many legal proceedings to follow.  It was so difficult to just sit and let the opposing council make such slanderous remarks while my hopefully soon-to-be-ex just smiled.  I guess I shouldn't have been surprised that no one was allowed to speak except the judge and the attorneys.


Yes, I picked the nice attorney, (silly me) and he believes in taking the high road, which is how I believe in living life but I am finding this difficult in the divorce realm.  It upset me so much to hear the facts twisted into a horribly grotesque fairytale as I sat there with my mouth legally sealed shut, unable to scream. I even remarked afterwards to my ex that I didn't realize he wrote fiction. 

It's sad to think that a 30-year relationship ends this way. In a conference room with two strange men speaking what seems like a foreign language, a language filled with numbers and dates with no thought to what really matters; lives that were torn apart and emotions.

I think they should make you wear your wedding outfits, after all this is an un-marriage. You could walk in the conference room together and at the end of all of the legal proceedings you would be able to rip your hopefully soon-to-be-ex's clothing to shreds. 

It makes me feel better just thinking about it!

My Cheap Fashion Fix

I needed retail therapy and purchased these at Ross for $4.99.

Found on E-Bay for $49.99

Tough looking shoes to sooth my feelings that were stomped on ;)