Sunday, September 21, 2014

My Tarnished Silver Anniversary!

Another month; another anniversary. This month I would have been married 25 years, (I guess I am still, due to being stuck in that legally separated void) the silver anniversary that people used to embrace if they were lucky enough to live that long. Evidently the tradition of the silver anniversary dates back to the people of medieval Germany, where the wife was given a wreath of silver. (Oh boy, she deserved that wreath and SO much more.)

It is hard to believe that a year has already gone by and my first support hearing is still a month away. It is no surprise why a lot of women end up financially destitute during this long waiting game. Life moves quickly, the wheels of justice I have found, do not.

The funny part of it, is that I feel like I have put 30 years into a dead end job. I wish (in the beginning) that when he revealed his story of how he told his old girlfriend that he was going running, never to return (to his own house I should add), that he would do the same thing to me so many years later.


I didn't realize he was a narcissist when we met. (It would be great if people came with warning labels, everything else does!) I guess it is because in the beginning he seemed self-assured, I didn't realize until it is too late that it was actually arrogance. His many scenes over the years were tiring. We could never sit at the first place we were offered when dining out, but had to play a mad musical chair game (without the music). It is nice to know that at least now I can sit wherever I want!

   MY Cheap Fashion FIx!

By Trouve

Black leather and spandex skirt

Regular price $148.00

Nordstrom Rack $22.20

Monday, September 8, 2014

I Just Realized I've Become a Member of The First Wives Club.


Last night on TV I watched The First Wives Club for the second time. It's funnier this time around and more poignant. It's fascinating how a movie seems to change when viewed from a different stage in your life. Of course, movies don't change, (unless it is a horrible remake) but our lives do.

The first time I saw it, I was married with a baby. I remember feeling that these women's fictional lives (while really funny) were absurd and so far removed my life; I couldn't imagine that happening to me. Watching it now I realize that I am now living through the same situation (although not as funny in real life), replaced by a much younger woman. It's only funny to me now because I have become a cliché, my story is no different from so many women before me, and I'm sure so many after me as well. I only wish that I had the same good, funny friends to share my experience with, but as many of life's experiences we must face it alone. 

I did discuss the younger woman phenomena with an old friend. We remembered older men chasing us when we were young and we wanted nothing to do with them, we were enjoying time spent with men our own age! The idea of dating an older married man (especially the married part) was something we would never have done. 

While the women in the movie became in charge of their divorces, today marks the date of separation on my divorce papers and my first day in court; my support hearing is still one month away. The movie had a happy ending, with the friends dancing down the street. I only hope that one day I will be done with this phase of my life and will be able to happily dance my way into my new life. 



My Cheap Fashion Fix

By Pinky 






Shear black pleated and 


ethnic print dress
$15.99 at Ross

Really love this dress!