Divorce and the Lost Summer

First the good news, as a divorcing mom reinventing myself I am writing not only for my blog but also for Divorcedmoms.com and I am happy to announce that I am in cyber print again! I wrote two new articles that I hope you will enjoy: 

"What my friends knew about my divorce and didn't say" ow.ly/yfcM4  ht
and "10 summer 2014 trends for the divorced mom on a budget" http://ow.ly/yk313 

This summer brings interesting timing. My passport had expired without my really noticing. Looking through it, there were memories of a past life that no longer seemed to belong to me. My shiny new passport arrived and like my life is waiting for its empty pages to be filled as I to begin my new journey. It may have to wait awhile.

This summer also brings another first new experience, the first summer without the kid's dad. We always went away to avoid the summer crowds in our own town and here we are in the traffic, heat and noise. My son refuses to leave the house much less go on a vacation anywhere! He still refuses to stay with his dad and rarely sees him. He says he really hates to travel and has always hated it, always chasing his dad wherever we went. It's true my hopefully soon to be ex always raced ahead of us, as if he were trying to escape from our family. Sometimes so far ahead that it was difficult to find him. 
Well he finally made it. 

 I guess in retrospect the good old days were actually not that good.

My Cheap Fashion Fix

A perfect summer top by

OneWorld

Regular price $48-52

Purchased at Ross

$7.49

 

Divorce, Lies and Videotape!

Well.... my hopefully soon to be ex came and videotaped the contents of the house. It was actually worse than I had imagined. He hadn't even figured out how to run his video camera, which just prolonged the torture. He videotaped everything, even items with little or no value. (Like the lucky bamboo plant, which looking back didn't turn out to be that lucky anyway)! I told him that he could have all of the furniture, all of the stuff; after all he picked everything out, even the dishes. (I was just a silly woman, how could I be allowed to make such an important decision like picking out a couch or a plate?) The saddest part for me was when I offered to let him take one of the large photos of the kids and he said that was ok, he didn't need it. I guess he really is only interested in the "big ticket items."

He was so careful to ensure he got everything on camera, even things he had given me. I guess I had forgotten how stingy he could be in certain areas, (like with emotions and affection). With wine too, he always referred to the good wine as his and got upset if I had a glass, I guess his mom never taught him to share. 

I am still not sure why the videotaping was necessary. After all these years of marriage how could he forget what was here, he hasn't been out of the house that long. Didn't he believe that I would take care of everything as I always had? Or that I wouldn't sell it or give it away? Did he think that I had changed? I haven't changed I am still the same woman he left. He hasn't changed either, only my perception of who he really is has gotten better. 

 My Cheap Fashion Fix

A silk dress with floral appliques 

by

Vivienne Tam

Cocktail dresses range from $250-$450

                         From DAV Disabled American Veteran's Thrift Stores

$4.95 
One of my favorite places to shop!