Welcome To My Single Parenting Nightmare!

You haven't felt the real pain of parenting (at least not since childbirth) until your almost adult son does not come home on a school night. I didn't sleep at all last night and it feels like every nerve in my body is on fire. I'm sure this is something only another mother could understand. It is 1:30 the next day and he is still not home. He finally texted me so at least I know he is alive but he is not here. He slept in and missed school which hasn't been going all that well this year anyway. He has also been ill and has missed his antibiotic again and now is probably making a super infection that he will never recover from. Oh well.

Just once I wish my hopefully soon-to-be-ex would step in and show concern for his son. Why can't he ask his son live with him? Silly me, I almost forgot his girlfriend is closer to his son's age than his own (and more handsome too). I'm getting tired of being the only parent. Why did his dad get to leave the family and begin a fun, carefree life again? How can someone just step away from the responsibilities of child rearing? I think a lot of this behavior is probably seeking attention from his father. Is he going to have to hit rock bottom before his dad shows he cares and more important how much further down is the bottom? Hold on tight, it's going to be a bumpy ride!

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Mother's Day Reflections

This was my second Mother's Day since the divorce started and the second without my daughter (who I miss like crazy). Looking back on all the Mother's Days that I have celebrated,  I really have to say that this was the best Mother's Day I have had in such a long time! My son actually spent the day with me, a whole day that started with lunch and ended with a movie and dinner.  I really couldn't believe my luck! He was sweet and kind to me the entire day.

That may sound strange but if you had been a fly on the wall of my many past Mother's Days when my children were small you would think you had entered into a theatre production of Cinderella (without the prince, the sparkly gown, or even the Godmother for that matter). My hopefully soon-to-be-ex would fix breakfast (usually with my help) and then leave me to clear the table and do the dishes. I did receive gifts (my favorites were the little painted hand prints) but after they were opened it was business as usual as I cleaned the house and ran errands.

They were not raised in a warm loving household (well I was loving but it was a cold place) with Mother's Day beginning with kids and a dad making breakfast for a mom still sleeping in bed.
I believe children learn by example but my son's thoughtfulness on Sunday gave me hope for my children's future Mother's Days.

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