The holiday season for those of us going through divorce can be a lonely and stressful time. I hope anyone who is reading this knows we are not the only ones going through this difficult time, there are so many of us, and our numbers still seem to be increasing.
To give myself a laugh I decided to create my own Twelve Days Of Christmas, please excuse my artistic license and I hope you get a smile from it!
On the twelfth day of Christmas my almost-ex gave to me:
Twelve summons brain numbing,
Eleven demands griping,
Ten calls kept me from sleeping,
Nine levied financing,
Eight bills a-bilking,
Seven lies a-hymning,
Six hairs a-graying,
Five olden flings,
Four brawling words,
Three Benched Friends,
Two curtailed loves,
And a court date for alimony!
Yes, he is already trying to get it lowered and we are not even finished yet and it has been over two years.
Ah well, Happy Holidays!
Saturday, December 26, 2015
Monday, December 14, 2015
Do Nice Guys (Women) Always Finish Last?
I have been the nice guy is this divorce since day one. After my hopefully-soon-to-be ex moved out, I called around to find out who his attorney was. It isn't hard to do, the person answering the phone gets an odd sound in their voice and they say they will get back to you. So I picked an attorney I knew would play well with his attorney.
These attorneys have done this dance together representing opposite sides for decades and I guess it is going so smoothly that NOTHING is happening. In over two years we have had exactly one hearing, my support hearing, I am thankful for that but everything else has been at a standstill.
Everything (no matter how odd) that I have been asked to has been completed in a timely manner including a third (yes, crazy I know) appraisal on the house. My hopefully-soon-to-be ex has not, which is why things are at a standstill.
When I asked about a court order to move things along I was told that it would take too much time and be expensive. Now I wish I had followed through on it when I asked the first time around, about a year ago. I have a feeling we would be farther along if I had pushed the issue.
I have also been the nice guy about bills my hopefully-soon-to-be ex is supposed to pay for, paying them out of my support instead of requesting payment through the attorneys which of course would cost more time and money.
Then this morning I receive a notice for an amount of under $10.00 for a shared expense from my hopefully-soon-to-be ex. This is the day I stop being the nice guy, I only wish I could see his face when he gets MY bill!
These attorneys have done this dance together representing opposite sides for decades and I guess it is going so smoothly that NOTHING is happening. In over two years we have had exactly one hearing, my support hearing, I am thankful for that but everything else has been at a standstill.
Everything (no matter how odd) that I have been asked to has been completed in a timely manner including a third (yes, crazy I know) appraisal on the house. My hopefully-soon-to-be ex has not, which is why things are at a standstill.
When I asked about a court order to move things along I was told that it would take too much time and be expensive. Now I wish I had followed through on it when I asked the first time around, about a year ago. I have a feeling we would be farther along if I had pushed the issue.
I have also been the nice guy about bills my hopefully-soon-to-be ex is supposed to pay for, paying them out of my support instead of requesting payment through the attorneys which of course would cost more time and money.
Then this morning I receive a notice for an amount of under $10.00 for a shared expense from my hopefully-soon-to-be ex. This is the day I stop being the nice guy, I only wish I could see his face when he gets MY bill!
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