This (Relation)Ship is Sinking, It's Everyman (or Woman) For Himself!!

It has been such a horribly difficult year. My son is so unhappy, he can't make himself go to school and it is his junior year, the worst time for this to be happening. I am always here for him even if he is not home. He told me yesterday that he hates me and doesn't respect me. I am not surprised, he never wants to be at home, (well at house our home-life was lost almost two years ago). 

I don't have a social life (or friends as they ran like divorce is something you can catch). I am as supportive as I can possibly be and I am trying to model happy behavior (children learn through example) as I have told him being happy is a skill that lasts a lifetime! 

Meanwhile my still hopefully soon-to-be-ex has been living the good life. No responsibilities, free as a bird to do as he pleases. He finally sent me an email stating that he is very concerned about our son's school situation and if he had known our son was having so many problems he would have done something sooner. I reminded him that this was part of our court discussion last year. I also reminded him that he has known all along and has done nothing (probably due to the effects of new love, such a wonderful mind numbing state to be in).

My goal this year is to find some happiness of my own. I need some mind numbing love too and these two need to fix their own relationship. Point me to the life raft! 

If you have been reading my blog you know that part of my life raft has been budget shopping and writing (so much cheaper than a therapist). Here are links to my latest of both (and thanks for sharing my journey).

My DivorcedMoms.com article: How I Married The Wrong Person http://divorcedmoms.com/articles/how-i-married-the-wrong-person

My Cheap Fashion Fix: Chillin' Outside of Coachella! http://mycheapfashionfix.blogspot.com/2015/04/chillin-outside-of-coachella.html?spref=tw

It's That Time of Year!

For the first time in my life (since the 80's anyway) I am doing my taxes on my own. While I really don't enjoy doing paperwork of any kind (who does) this year is quite enjoyable since I am not being ragged on by anyone but me. The best news I found out so far is that I don't have to pay taxes on child support, yipee! You have to look for the little enjoyments in life when you are going through a divorce.

Of course it is not without any flareups from my still hopefully soon-to-be-ex. The other night I received the nastiest email I think I have ever received in my life. I should have expected it, money was always the most important thing to him and he doesn't think that after 24 years of marriage that I should have any. Maybe he received the report from the vocational counselor that told him that after so many years off of the job market that it was true I was unemployable.

Whatever the reason, I let him know that none of this was my choice. I am just trying to bide my time until all of the paperwork is finished and we can pretend we never knew each other. (yes that's sad too, after so many years of marriage he doesn't want to be friends !)

Of well to cheer myself up I go shopping and here is the link to my latest therapeutic purchase.

It's cheaper that therapy and I get to go home with something I really like!

http://mycheapfashionfix.blogspot.com/2015/03/double-take-consignment-boutique.html