Divorce and Personality Phases

Life is sometimes so strange. When we first met, my future husband was so free and fun. If it was a gloomy day, we would sometimes drive until we got to a place that was sunny. No real plans, except to wander. Maybe that is why I fell for him. After we were married I could sense the change coming. He started to become more controlling, no longer were we able to chase the sun. After we had children my husband used to call me a recalcitrant teenager. He became so grizzled and controlling. 

Now that we are divorcing (and he has a younger girlfriend), he has been reborn a  teenager, forever going to concerts and traveling, never in town. Why did having children make him change so drastically and why without children does he feel so free to become himself again? Is this version of himself the real one? Who was he all of those years between getting married and having children? 

I am still who I have always been. Growing and giving birth to two children has not changed me except maybe for the better. More loving, more giving, more caring!  

Thank you to my hopefully soon to be ex for leaving me to care for our son alone. 
I refuse to become prosaic and controlling as you once were. 
I will find my way through this single parenthood with "me" intact. 

My Cheap Fashion Fix

Floral print dress 

from H&M $12.95

(and this is the regular price)